communication

among the numerous essays i was required to write in Arabic, last monday, ustazah jihad asked me to write about 'asbab at-tolak'...(causes of divorce)...

lastu mutazawwijah ya ustazah! i replied...hehe
la budda 3ndik thaqofah!...7awil!...errmmm...so anyway, i scribbled away...thinkin hard of reasons reasonably...

i end up jotting down 3 causes
1. no communication
2. being extremely busy
3. loosing the sweetness of early days of marriage (the girls were shy and the guy were gentleman)...ni naimah yg pesan...haha

ustazah jihad was so excited reading my unplanned work...thus she ended up giving me all her tips on how to take care of 'a husband'...elaborating more on my points.
seems like ustaz mahmoud is very lucky to have her...:)

anyway, the most important she said is of course communication!
well, to me...not only in a marriage...in any relationships present in this world, communication proves to be a key solvent.

for example
wouldn't it be very difficult if A n B got into a misunderstanding that got B so upset and B decided to never wanna talk to A...
so how can A explain to B how the misunderstanding happened...
even if it's not a misunderstanding...say for example A actually did something very wrong...shouldn't A be given the chance to explain himself?

through my experience, when i try to advice someone like B to listen, they would say...
"'A' will try to cook up a story to explain himself!...i wont except nonsense!...i dun wanna hear it!"

usually, if this is a couple, A is the guy n B is the girl...and sorry to say, girls get upset easily and are very difficult to accept any other explanation apart from the prove they saw before their own eyes..
(i feel like writing men are from mars and women are from venus...haha)

anyhow...wherever we stand in a relationship, be it husband and wife, girlfriend and boyfriend, among our friends, mom and daughter, dad and son, teacher and student...etc etc...

take care of these relationships you possess...throw away the communication barrier...learn to listen and be wise in responding...

"limaza kullu hazihi dhojjah? taqulu bil hudu' lau samaht~..solli 3ala muhammad!"

(why are you scolding? please, say it calmly~ solli 3ala muhammad!)

a sentence i learnt from ustazah jihad

and the most precious relationship that should be our utmost priority to keep is between ourselves and Allah...:)

this reminds me of a story ustaz mahmoud told us in one of the fiqh sirah classes...of our amirul mukminin Umar al Khattab...(i apologize first cause i dun remember precisely who were the other characters in this story)

so...a delegation from another country came to Madinah al Mukarramah to meet the leader of islam Umar al-Khattab...he asked around for his throne...and a guy responded..."there he is under that tree..." pointing at Umar al-Khattab
"owh!...thanks, but how do i meet him?" the delegation asked
the guy was confused?...does he need to explain how to walk to the obvious tree in front of them?
"just go there and meet him!" he replied~

how communication was made very easy before, even the most feared leader of Islam can be confronted by normal people... without all the hustle of bureaucracy~
a result of our beloved Prophet's guidance...

reminding myself mostly and to whomever reading this
Ramadhan is approaching....~

a very interesting video i found from a friend's facebook...:)

nisfu shaaban...

during my secondary school years (i went to a boarding school)...

every year, i've learnt that in nisfu shaaban (in the middle of Shaaban's month), there is a night where we recite surah Yaasiin thrice.

after each recitation, we read a du'a...and we 'hope'

after the first recitation we hope for a long life of goodness

after the second recitation we hope for 'halal' earnings

after the third recitation we hope for a complete faith (iman) when we die

(this...i literally translated from a booklet of Yaasiin and Du'a with malay translation)

dis year...coincidently on 14th Shaaban, me and another 10 of my friends headed to Dumyat...for a short vacation...guided by Fida n her husband...:)

thnx!

the journey was supposed to start at 6.a.m...hehe (i got out of my house at 6.20 due to the oversleep...huhu (panic giler packing)...we boarded the train at 7.30 (naseb baek sempat)

as we reached dumyat, we took a microbus to an apartment by the beach

a view from one of the windows...can u imagine how many people are down there! and dis isn't even 1/10th of the beach...i can say at least a 'number' of Egypt's population are here

rest for a while after the long journey wit this cute mind-calming girl...

though she looked annoyed i guess...hehe

then we went to see the end of nile river...honestly, i was really amazed by the view...after months living in cairo...it's a relieve to feel mother nature-

need to repeat dis pic...cause, usually when i use my own camera it's either am alone in it or am not in it...the latter is most...~

they tried to taste if there's a difference in the water...but when i look down, i was reminded of my mom...

she'll definitely say..."don't!...you might fall into the sea!"...hehe

hehe...jz can't resist...iman and her aunty erin...she sure does love her...:)

then we walk back home accompanied by the beautiful sunset~

carrying as much water as i can...~summer~

*itu topi pinjam...thnx azlin..:)

the best sunset picture i ever captured!

okay...enough with the pics...

that night...i felt really grateful to have my friends with me...

we recited surah Yaasiin together...a very memorable moment...if i weren't there...i might be alone at home...and might not be able to finish reciting surah Yaasiin up to three times...or even at all...but, alhamdulillah...wut r friends for right?...:D

*urm...pray for ust alang...

then, they had barbecue...i missed it...huhu...seriously can't open my eyes after that...so sad~

anyway...i thought, that was a blessing already...getting many companies at the night of nisfu shaaban...

but the nex day, after a long journey back home (approximately 6 hrs)...thinking am too exhausted to even open the fridge...suddenly, out of the blue...my landlord climbed up my fourth floor apartment, knocked on my door after maghrib with a complete set of Egyptian dinner...:D

(which i finished eating the next day though i was so hungry - signifying how plenty it was)

owh, how touching!...thank you so much ustazah Maha!...may Allah bless her eternally...

this month, Egypt seems more beautiful...:)

Allahumma ballighna Ramadhan!

jealous

i've been lookin up for the meaning of this word...
JEALOUS...yup!

but it doesn't really fit...
the feeling of wanting something for oneself only or the feeling of don't wanna share...
coz what dictionary.com explained means more like rivalry...

it reminds me of a surah i discussed with my landlord just before i started my final exams...

surah at-Tahrim...

generally, from what i understood...in the first 5 verses described and incident that happened among our beloved Prophet's wives...they were jealous of each other. so, Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon Him), to console one, he promised that he wouldn't visit the other one...(the tafsir is long...and the story is interesting, but i didn't remember all...)

and so Allah sent down surah at Tahrim, asking His messenger:

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful

1. O Prophet! Why do you forbid (for yourself) that which Allah has allowed to you, seeking to please your wives? And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.

and Allah released Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) from his oath...

2. Allah has already ordained for you (O men) the absolution from your oaths. And Allah is your Maula (Lord, or Master, or Protector) and He is the All-Knower, the All-Wise.

then Allah described part of the incident and how He revealed it to His messenger...

3. And (remember) when the Prophet (peace be upon him) disclosed a matter in confidence to one of his wives (Hafsah), then she told it (to another i.e 'Aishah). And Allah made it known to him; he informed part thereof and left a part. Then when he told her (Hafsah) thereof, she said: "Who told you this?" He said: "The All-Knower, the All-Aware (Allah) has told me."

the next two verse, Allah warns Hafsah and 'Aishah...and the others too...

4. If you two (wives of the Prophet -peace be upon him-: 'Aishah and Hafsah -radiAllahu 'anhuma) turn in repentance to Allah, (it will be better for you), your hearts are indeed so inclined (to oppose what the Prophet -peace be upon him- likes); but if you help one another against him (Muhammad -peace be upon him-), then verily, Allah is his Maula ( Lord or Master or Protector) and Jibril and the righteous among the believers; and furthermore, the angels are his helpers.

5. It may be if he divorced you (all) that his Lord will give him instead of you, wives better than you - Muslims (who submits to allah), believers, obedient (to Allah), turning to Allah in repentance, worshipping Allah sincerely, given to fasting or emigrants (for Allah's sake), previously married and virgins.

in the sixth verse, everyone is reminded to protect ourselves and our family from hell fire, then we are told about repentance and this surah ends nicely with 4 examples of wives...two of which who disobeyed Allah, wives of Nabi Nuh and Nabi Lut and the another two wives of the  believers...Asiah (wife of the pharaoh) and Maryam son of Imran...

i apologize in advance if there are any mistakes in conveying the meaning of surah at Tahrim...do correct me if am wrong...:)

from here, i learnt that...even our beloved Prophet went through the turmoils of life...it will never escape anybody...
but still...jealous is not the real word to describe this yearning to possess for oneself...but it's the closest one or the most commonly used i may say...hmmm

dun  like feeling it..=.=

anyway...in the month of Shaaban, lets submerge ourselves with histories of our Prophet...and may it be our daily habits...:)
Allahumma ballighna Ramadhan...can't wait!

holiday?

^_^

time flew by like a blurr...huhu
and now i am only left with a single summer before it all ends...(hopefully!...kearah sifar dur thani!!!ameen)

so...in the past month...am pretty much stuck at home, reading...memorizing...sleeping...
one of those times where i talk to myself alot...or to my teddy...hehe...(not being nuts...i need to practice talking in egyptian)

gune bebo in the mean time...

everytime i felt my head is crammed...fida's facebook would be browsed...hehe, to look at this heartbreakingly cute iman!

but even though i didn't get to meet a lot of people...exam months taught me a lot!...plus it was in Rejab month...a month dedicated for our one and mighty God...this year around...it fits in very much as we everyday hoped and prayed He would make stuff easy for us...

Sungguh.peperiksaan itu satu 'modul tarbiyah'..

(from Natrah's status)

i hope the lessons we get through this year's experience of exams will make us a better person in the future...:)

5 years ago~~~
each and everyone of us just only started...we got through MMS week in INTEC and had the very fun 3 months course of preparation...
and it coincide with Rejab month too...

as i recalled a day in my class MEP5, ust Razi did a quiz or something like dat where we throw qeustions between each other (it was between boys and girls)...the one question i could never forget...from Faeid
"bacakan ayat alQuran yang sebut tentang isra' mi'raj" (of course he said it with his kelantanese accent...:)

whoa!!!very difficult i thought at that time...ust Razi looked around..."no answer?"...he asked us...
after a few minutes, one of the girls said -
"ayat yang kate 'minal masjidil haram ilal masjidil aqso'!"...sorry i forgot who answered that...
"iyelah...bacakan ayat tersebut, surah ap ayat brape"...Faied replied back...
hehe...nobody managed to answer that...

but to me it was a lucky question...as after that ust Razi explained that ayat to us
(surah isra' first verse)
how from ages ago till this moment, the land surrounding masjid al-Aqso was, still and will always be blessed...
and how it reminds us about Allah...
and how it should have united the whole muslim nation...
and about isra' mi'raj itself...
am not good in explaining these kind of info...but that day opened my eyes about my world...:)

sume da besar da skarang...

time pass by us so fast...it's like a blink of an eye...and there'll come a day when we'd feel like everything was just yesterday...a day or two ago...but we can never return back...

now we're in Syaaban...Allahumma balighna Ramadhan!...:)
have a nice holiday gen6 and others who are about to finish their xms...
and do also pray for our unity...